20 things women apologise for – but really shouldn’t.

She’s right that there’s a ton of nuance in the way many of us preface certain statements with apologies. That being said, there are still some cut-and-dry scenarios where the word “sorry” is never, ever needed — and some when it is. Let’s review them, shall we?

1. Someone else bumping into you on the street.

2. Asking that a mistake be corrected – whether it’s a huge error your co-worker made that you’re being blamed for, or being handed the wrong drink at Starbucks.

3. Speaking your mind.

4. Ordering dessert.

5. Returning something that’s defective.

6. Getting up to use the bathroom on a crowded airplane, no matter how dramatically the person in the aisle seat sighs.

7. Overdressing.

8. Taking a while to respond to a non-urgent email.

9. Asking that guy on the subway to please remove his entire body weight from your pinkie toe.

10. Someone else’s bad behaviour.

11. Asking for help.

12. Not being a dog person.

13. Kindly asking someone to repeat themselves when they’re mumbling.

14. Needing some time alone.

15. Having a messy house.

16. Saying “no.” No explanation or excuse necessary.

17. Spending all your discretionary income on a trip to Vegas to see Britney Spears in concert.

18. Killing it at work.

19. Telling someone the truth, especially if they specifically asked you for it.

20. Taking up space in the world. You deserve to be here.

And 10 things you totally should apologise for:

1. Acting like a jerk to someone.

Doesn’t matter if that someone was your best friend or your mom or the teenage boy who works the front desk at the gym. Doesn’t matter if you were hungry or PMS-ing or having a rough day. Being a jerk is never OK. Just say sorry.

2. Eating tuna in a small room with other people and no ventilation.

3. Intentionally vague Facebook status updates.

4. Abandoning your friend who’s stuck in a conversation with the most obnoxious person at the party.

5. Spilling red wine on someone else’s white carpet.

6. Having your phone out during a social interaction — any social interaction.

7. Cutting someone off in traffic (a “sorry” wave will do here, especially when combined with a cringe indicating you didn’t mean to).

8. Not bringing enough money to pay your share at a group dinner.

9. Repeating an offensive joke you didn’t realise was offensive but upon telling it in public it has suddenly become very clear it was offensive and you feel awful and will never tell it again.

10. Sharing the flu with your whole office.

What do you apologise for but shouldn’t? What should you apologise for? Anything to add to the lists?

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